Monday, January 10, 2011

Time to Vent.

One of my favorite versus is 1 Corinthians 13:11-13
~We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long until the weather clears and the sun shines bright. We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us...but for right now, until that completeness, we have 3 things to do….

Trust steadily in God. Hope unswervingly. Love extravagantly. And the best of the 3 is love.

If you read my blog you will know that I started a challenge with myself to say something everyday about my husband or something uplifting about him on facebook for each day of the year.

He actually goes looking for it... and if I forgot ( I have), he asks me did I miss it ? It's not because he has a big ego or needs to be fluffed up, however it's something he looks forward to. Kind of like Christmas when you check the mail hoping for a Christmas card!

I have had a few reactions to my postings. Most are positive, but you know there is always someone that you can tell or has commented that is hurt, offended, or has something to say.

I understand that I am a blessed women to have a great husband, awesome father to my children, and spiritual leader of our home. I would like to say that it has not always been that way.

I remember days where we would be screaming at each other and fighting. Day's where I felt alone raising children because he was to busy or just wasn't into it. He didn't really have a father who "played" with him, but did show him and guide him spiritually. He had to learn how to help in the house and to be a daddy and husband.


I feel for women who are married and not happy. It makes me sad. I was one of those women.

There is something YOU can do if your one of those women.


That is something that is life changing, earth shattering and will move your situation.

I'm going to be blunt, but please know it's in LOVE.

Being Sad.

Being Lonely.

Being Depressed.

Being Repetitive (doing the same thing and getting no where)(or repeating your story over and over)

Is all okay to do that.... however you can't stay there!!!!

I wish there was a crystal ball to show you God has it under control.

God knows!!! He is greater!!!!

So with that being said... if your one of those women who wishes your husband would

get a job

stop being lazy

help with the kids

take you on dates

go to church

play with the kids

lead your family spiritually

find Jesus

would clean up after himself

would stop drinking

would stop doing drugs

you get the picture.

Get a piece of paper out, write a Dear Hubby Letter (don't worry you don't need to give it to him).

I want you to write a letter explaining everything you want form him in love.

Then here's what you have to do:

Dear Jesus ~ Please change my expecations of my marriage. Anything I hoped or dreamed of is yours and I ask that you would give me a new desires for my husband a new love, passion and that you Jesus would change me first.

Then I think it's okay to list specific things that you would like starting with things like his salvation, or coming to church as a family. Pray that God would stir those things in his heart, and would send a Godly man into his life.

Lastly Ladies it's easy to avoid our hubbies when we feel they aren't being there for us or giving us what we need. What you need to do and where you need to be is with your man.

That means on all levels.

It's easy to withhold but I urge you to go above and beyond... even when you don't want to.


Sonya Schroeder said...

Rachael thank you for this post. This is exactly what was happening in my marriage. The Lord showed me that He needed to work in my life and I needed to meet my husband where he was for the Lord to work in his life. We get Gods way, way too much and He is unable to work till we move. I am glad that I finally got and can serve Him completely so the Lord can work in his life. Yours words said is gracefully!! ~Blessings Sonya

Lisa @ The Preacher's Wife said...

You are awesome. :)

~jen~ said...

First of all, it makes me sad that you would get *any* slack whatsoever from *anyone* about how you decided to post something POSITIVE about your man each day. Even *if* you were in a not-so-wonderful relationship, it would still benefit you to post a positive comment each day!! We can alllll benefit from a little more positivity in our lives!!! :o)

I have a wonderful marriage; however, it is not without it's share of problems to be dealt with. We are both growing daily and kinks need to be worked out here and there. Some seasons will be easier than others...but with God working in both of us, there are bound to be hiccups along the road, ya know. :o)
I agree with you...pray, pray, pray!!! The nagging has to stop (and its so easy to fall into that pattern when you are disgruntled).

Also, wanted to mention, I've heard this book Love and Respect by Emerson Eggeriches has been phenomenal (of all "marriage self-help books") for many couples. At the heart of so many marital issues, all the woman wants is to be shown the love she desperately needs/wants and all the man wants is the respect he deserves. I've not read it, but I know it can't hurt because that is one area I know I lack in showing my husband.

Rachael ~ keep on praising your husband's goodness, that's just awesome...and even if he "lacked" in an area, it helps to "call it out of him" in love!! So much power in the tongue!!!

H HoopThiel said...

Thank you for this post! I have a wonderful, loving husband ... but there are things on my list. You're reminder to give them over to God in prayer was just what I needed this morning.

Thank you.

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