Trust steadily in God. Hope unswervingly. Love extravagantly. And the best of the 3 is love.
If you read my blog you will know that I started a challenge with myself to say something everyday about my husband or something uplifting about him on facebook for each day of the year.
He actually goes looking for it... and if I forgot ( I have), he asks me did I miss it ? It's not because he has a big ego or needs to be fluffed up, however it's something he looks forward to. Kind of like Christmas when you check the mail hoping for a Christmas card!
I have had a few reactions to my postings. Most are positive, but you know there is always someone that you can tell or has commented that is hurt, offended, or has something to say.
I understand that I am a blessed women to have a great husband, awesome father to my children, and spiritual leader of our home. I would like to say that it has not always been that way.
I remember days where we would be screaming at each other and fighting. Day's where I felt alone raising children because he was to busy or just wasn't into it. He didn't really have a father who "played" with him, but did show him and guide him spiritually. He had to learn how to help in the house and to be a daddy and husband.
NOT EASY IF YOUR MARRIED TO ME!!
I feel for women who are married and not happy. It makes me sad. I was one of those women.
There is something YOU can do if your one of those women.
That is something that is life changing, earth shattering and will move your situation.
I'm going to be blunt, but please know it's in LOVE.
Being Repetitive (doing the same thing and getting no where)(or repeating your story over and over)
Is all okay to do that.... however you can't stay there!!!!
I wish there was a crystal ball to show you God has it under control.
God knows!!! He is greater!!!!
So with that being said... if your one of those women who wishes your husband would
get a job
stop being lazy
help with the kids
take you on dates
go to church
play with the kids
lead your family spiritually
would clean up after himself
would stop drinking
would stop doing drugs
you get the picture.
Get a piece of paper out, write a Dear Hubby Letter (don't worry you don't need to give it to him).
I want you to write a letter explaining everything you want form him in love.
Then here's what you have to do:
Dear Jesus ~ Please change my expecations of my marriage. Anything I hoped or dreamed of is yours and I ask that you would give me a new desires for my husband a new love, passion and that you Jesus would change me first.
Then I think it's okay to list specific things that you would like starting with things like his salvation, or coming to church as a family. Pray that God would stir those things in his heart, and would send a Godly man into his life.
Lastly Ladies it's easy to avoid our hubbies when we feel they aren't being there for us or giving us what we need. What you need to do and where you need to be is with your man.
That means on all levels.
It's easy to withhold but I urge you to go above and beyond... even when you don't want to.