Friday, May 18, 2012
30 Days Of Prayers Over My Husband
I just celebrated 10 years of being with my awesome hubby! I know that it was prayers of others, and our prayers that helped us get to 10 years!!!
If you leave me an email I can email this to you in a pdf. file. Sorry don't know how to post a pdf on my blog :)
Day 1 - His Spirituality
(Feed his soul)Romans 10:17, (You will do what you have promised) Romans 4:21,(Let him ask) James 1:6-8
(Grow in the knoweledge of you) 2 Peter 3:18, (Guard his heart )Proberbs 4:23, Proverbs 9:10 (Fear of Lord)
Day 2 - His Leadership
Ephesians 5:25-29 & Colossians 3:19 (allow him to lead your marriage), Galatians 6:9, 1 Peter 5:2
Day 3 - His Faithfulness
Hebrews 13:4 (Faithfulness to the marriage), Psalm 101:3 NLT (Hating whatʼs not faithful.)
Day 4- His Work
Proverbs 22:29, Proverbs 23:4,5, Psalm 90:17,Romans 12:11,1 Corinthians 15:58
Day 5 - His Integrity
Proverbs 10:9,Psalm 41:12,Proverbs 20:7,Psalm 15:4,Proverbs 28:6,Proverbs 11:3,Psalm 26:1,Psalm25:21
Day 6 - The Finances
Luke 12:31, Philippians 4:19, Proverbs 23:4,5 ,Psalm 37:25,Proverbs 28:17, Isaiah 56:1 honesty
Day 7 - His Servents Heart
Proverbs 15:33,Ephesians 6:6, James 1:26, Proverbs 31:8,9
Day 8- His Sexuality
Proverbs 5:15-19, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20,1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 1 Corinthians 7:4-5
Day 9 - His Friends
Proverbs 13:20, Proverbs 27:17, Hebrews 10:24,25, 1 John 1:7 accountability,
Day 10 - His Health
1 Corinthians 3:16,Romans 12:1,
Day 11 - His Mind
Ephesians 6:10, Romans 8:6, Mark 12:30, 2 Corinthians10:3-5,Philipians 4:8
Day 12 - His Fatherhood
Proverbs 3:12, Proverbs 29:17,Ephesians 6:4, 2 Timothy 2:1-2,Colossions 3:21
Day 13 - Balnaced Life
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, Matthew 6:33-34, 2 Peter 3:!7,
Day 14 - His Purpose
2 Thesselonians 1:11,Ephesians 1:17-19,Psalm 20:4,1 Corinthians 7:7, Jeremiah 29:11,
Day 15 - His Temptations
1 Corinthians 10:13, James 1:13-15, Luke 22:40, Romans 12:9
Day 16- His Fears
Isaiah 41:10, Psalm 27:1, Psalm 34:7, Psalm 34:4 Isaiah 41:10, Hebrews 13:6,Isaiah 11:2
Day 17 -His Future
Jeremiah 31:17,Jeremiah 29:11,Psalm 92:13-15, Psalm 21:2 (Desires of his heart), Proverbs 29:18 (Prayer for
Day 18- His Self Image
2 Corinthians 3:18, Isaiah 60:1, 1 Corinthians 11:7
Day 19 - His Emotions
Psalm 23:3, Psalm 40:17, Isaiah 61:3, Proverbs 21:14
Day 20 - His Attitude
Ezekial 18:31,Proverbs 25:28, Psalm 100:4, Phillipians 4:11
Day 21 - His Trials
Psalm 71:20-21, Psalm 55:22, 1 Peter 1:6-7, Psalm 46:1,
Day 22 - His Obidence/Teachable Spirit
Jeremiah 7:23,Proverbs 3:1-3, Titus 3:1-2, Matthew 19:17
Day 23 - His Humbleness
1 Peter 5:6, James 4:6, 2 Chronicles 7:14, Micah 6:8, James 4:10
Day 24 - Courageous
Deuteronomy 31:6, Deuteronomy 31:23, Joshua 1:9, Psalm 27:14,
Day 25 - His Prayer Life
Luke 22:46 (He should pray so he woundʼt be tempted), James 5:16, 1 Thess. 5:17
Day 26 - His Despression
Psalm 56:13,Luke 4:18, Psalm 18:2-3
Day 27 - His Heart
Proverbs 4:23, Matthew 5:8, Proverbs 15:13, Proverbs 17:22,
Day 28 - His Calling
Psalm 139, Romans 11:29,
Day 29 - His Dreams
Acts 2:17, Joel 2:28, Ephesians 1:27
Day 30 - His Past
Isaiah 43:18-19, 2 Corinthians 5:17, 2 Corinthians 4:16, Revelation 21:4
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
I have a confession to make. Sort of a verbal vomit because we all know how holy and Godly that is right ?
I took a long break on blogging!!! Shock I know. See the community God has given me with other Women in Ministry has been amazing! Many day's I can go thru the Girlfriend Blogroll and see how many of you are doing amazing, some of you are struggling, and some of you encourage me in a dark hour. Let me just say I love each of you for the friendship we have developed.
Many of you have connected and becomes friends on facebook and I love that because I get to see you throughout your daily lives and not just a post every once in awhile. I love that I have posted scriptures, and encouraging messages for the last several years and for many of you, it is something that has spoke to you, and many others outside of ministry on facebook.
However, a couple months ago I posted a scripture from my Beth Moore bible study and people were quick to "assume" I was calling them out and referring to them. This broke my heart. I'm the type of person in real life that if I have something to say, I will come to you, and not use social media to go after you (we all know there are people who do that :), however I'm not one of them). I removed it and really have not posted a whole lot since.
I was sickened by the fact that some people would judge my heart and my motives. I'm not going to open all that back up, other than to say my heart was shattered. For several years I have used scripture, and quotes to uplift, encourage and speak life, and I was questioned.
I let that ONE event stop me from posting, being real and being me. Today a sweet friend posted and said this quote.
"It is said that if we were to help the butterfly remove itself from the cocoon, the butterfly would not be strong enough to survive. It is the struggle that prepares the butterfly to become strong enough to fly. Without the struggle in the cocoon, it could not survive as a butterfly."
The Lord prepares each of us in similar ways. ~Os Hillman
I'm ready to sore! I have spent way to much time bound in the cocoon struggling to become strong enough to fly that I know realize the cacoon was preparing me for such a time as this. I won't hold back, I refuse to be a people pleaser but I will honor God in all I do and all he ask. Don't ever judge someone, all butterflies come in different shapes and sizes, and some may take longer in the cacoon. Let them be, and let them become. So to those who emailed and said you missed me, I miss you, but I'm back!!!
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
I recently spoke at a local Mops group, and wanted to share my notes with any of you who may read my blog.
I hope and pray that it encourages you.
Let’s talk about “sex”!
When I say the word “sex” many thoughts run through our minds. I asked the ladies what was the first thing that went thru their mind and here are a few responses..
"Who has time?"
"Do I have to ?"
"That was quick!"
"We used to do that!"
My heart is so sad that this was the popular opinion of the women. It doesn't have to be.
“Sex” is not a dirty word and we have to talk about sex in church. Let’s get real, the world (media, movies, internet, etc.) talks about it. The 2nd best place to talk about it is in church. The most important place should be in your home with your spouse.
God created sex.
Genesis 1:24-28 (NIV)
24 And God said, “Let the land produce living creatures according to their kinds: the livestock, the creatures that move along the
ground, and the wild animals, each according to its kind.” And it was so. 25 God made the wild animals according to their kinds,
the livestock according to their kinds, and all the creatures that move along the ground according to their kinds. And God saw
that it was good.
26 Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the
birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
27 So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the
sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
Ways to fracture Your Marriage & Sex Life.
* Withhold sex & intimacy in your marriage
1 Corinthians 7:5 (NLT)
5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
What is your favorite resteraunt ?
So let me ask this ….If you were asked to eat at the same resteraunt every day for the rest of your life and eat the same meal, would one of your expactations be to have that meal timely and consistent ? Compare that to your marriage or rather your sex life, ouch!
"Quantity is a poor substitute for quality. Quantity plays a role, but it is a supporting role, not the leading role."
However as women we need to learn to say "YES" more than we say "NO".
Unconditional Love -
John 13:34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
"When you got married you made an unconditional promise to an imperfect man."
Your husband doesn’t need to earn the gift of sex. It’s not a reward system. It’s a love system. Fill up his love bank.
"In order for a man to reach his wife's body, he must go through her heart.
For a Woman to reach her husband's heart, she must go through his body."
*Refuse to Heal From Past Sexual Hurts
his or her porn addiction
1)Realize that the Abuse was the Problem
2)Realize that God is Angry at the Abuse
3)Reframe How You See Sex
4)Talk about it.
You’re an adult now, and it’s up to you whether or not you want to let that abuser/situation keep stealing from you, or whether you’re going to pursue wholeness again. Please pursue wholeness.
* Establish your standard of attraction outside your marriage
Song of Solomon 5:10 (NLT)
10 My lover is dark and dazzling, better than ten thousand others!
YOU’RE MY STANDARD OF HOT.
Ladies your husband needs to know he is your standard of hotness!
Song of Solomon 7:1 (NLT)
1 How beautiful are your sandaled feet, O queenly maiden. Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a skilled craftsman.
You are my standard of beauty
People around you need to know your standard of hotness is your husband.
Avoid tempting situations
1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT)
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
Let other people know your standard & invite them to keep you accountable. They won’t keep you accountable if they don’t know you want them to.
Psalm 51:6 (NIV)
6 Surely you desire truth in the inner parts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place.
* Be best-friends or form close relationships with opposite sex
Genesis 2:18 (MSG)
18God said, "It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion.
Song of Solomon 5:16 (NLT)
16 His mouth is sweetness itself; he is desirable in every way. Such, O women of Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend.
* Flirting (body part talking, jokes about sex)
* Facebook– Share passwords, emotional needs met thru fbook, should be meet thru your spouse. Always starts innocently.
* Start discussing Marriage issues with opposite sex.
* Value doing Everything Together
* Guard Interactions – Being alone with opposite sex in a private place, Won’t ride in a car alone with opposite sex, Counsel with opposite sex alone.
When you have interaction with the opposite sex it’s never harmless. Your Emotions will attach and your husband will not be able to meet those and you’ll have a wall up no matter how hard you try. Your sex life will be affected.
*Shut God out of our lives & relationships.
Hebrews 13:4 (NLT)
4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
*Emasculate Him by not giving him respect.
Show him honor by respect. That's a top need for him.
So often we belittle him, emasculate him, humiliate him, talk negative to family and friends.
It doesn’t matter if your husband has earned it or if he deserves it or if you don’t feel like it.
Show him honor by respecting him.
Some of you are praying your husband will come to church, well quit talking trash about him and maybe he will. Speak life over him.
Doesn’t matter feel like it or wether he has earned it. It’s biblical; Eph. 5:33 "and the wife must respect her husband."
Too many of us have virtually no respect for what a husband really needs, but we have unlimited respect for our own needs. And we’re not only hurting our husbands–we’re hurting ourselves.
We judge ourselves by our intentions. We judge our spouses by their actions. No wonder we think we’re better!
When your husband feels respected your sex life will launch thru the roof.
*Create a Child Centered Marriage
Child-centered marriage is a recipe for disaster. Teach children early that their “happiness” is not Mom or Dad’s reason for living.
Never think that you are doing your children a favor by prioritizing them over your husband.
Your husband was there before your kids, and will be there when there gone. Where will your marriage be ?
And the 2 will become 1. What God has put together let no man seperate.
1)Top Priority is Jesus.
2)Then your spouse.
*Don’t Pray Over HIm
When you don't pray over your husband you allow so many things to become priority.