Showing posts with label Girlfriends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Girlfriends. Show all posts

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Vision.



Have you ever been apart of something that you just got, and understood the importance of ?
I remember when we planted our church, and how we wanted to make the vision that God gave us so clear that our congregation could repeat it and say it within a 30 seconds to anyone who asked. Doing this allowed them to know our hearts, see where we were going, and take ownership.

Love God, Love People, Change The World.
Love God - Using discipleship to grow people's relationship in the Lord, and that everything we do must come under us Loving God.
Loving People - Loving people right were they were. intentionally loving them. How often do you recognize your leaders ? People who greet, run the nursery ? They must feel loved and valued.
Change The World- The great commission going out into the all the world and sharing the gospel.
Could be thru providing quarters at the laundry mat, free childcare, giving water bottles to people when they come out of the bar at 3:00 in the morning. The list is endless, but basically to serve.

I know several churches that have such a "Simple" approach to their vision and church.
WE as a body of believers and ministry leaders complicate things so much .
We have programs for programs and we keep our calendars full and busy.
We spin a bazillion plates at one time praying that one won't hit the floor while the others are all spinning.
However is your vision or lack of vision so complicated that you aren't even taken care of your first responsibilities.
1) Your relationship with the Lord
2) Your relationship with your spouse
3)Your Children
4)Your Ministry/Job
So often #4 dictates #1-#3 umm how backwards ?!?!?
My friend Melissa Elswick recently said in an online conference.
“Tip the scale toward ministering to our family first, our children are our most important disciples. Don’t just say yes to a good thing… say yes to a better thing… your family.”
My friend Angie and her husband planted a church and have had a huge life changing event, but in that so much good has come. I know Jon & Angie will someday be able to share how out of balance people have come in ministry. Check out this post here. If your critical of her thoughts, I can pretty much tell you that's the Holy Spirit tapping on your shoulder saying (cough cough).

So back to my main point - Vision.
Keep it follow able by people in your church.
Become Fearless but Fear the Lord (If God is leading you to do something, but you don't want to ruffle feathers, you will ruffle more by sitting and doing nothing, and you will lead your church to a slow death, and probably your family.)
Most of all Have a Vision. (winning souls isn't just enough, people want to see and understand the "how" behind it, and know what happens once they find Jesus). Not only does a lack of vision not lead the people in your church, but you'll go thru staff so quick because they have nothing to follow.

If you have lost the vision, you have lost the passion or your church is controlling the way you Pastor or lead your doing nothing more than prostituting yourself to believers trying to get them to buy into a mystery of your ministry.
Eventually, you will loose them because they don't know where they are going or what to follow. All ministries in your church should support the main vision of the church, if they don't peace out, that ministry needs to go away!


Last story, I remember when we were felt God leading us to pass off our church plant to someone else. The feeling of starting over, moving or having to go to another church, and learn their problems (all churches have them) was exhausting.
However, I feel so strongly if we would have stayed the church would be falling apart because God was done with us at this church. Staying longer would have been detrimental.
Part of having Vision is realizing when you have done what God asked and when it's time to move on. You may be holding your church back or you could be missing a HUGE blessing God has for you!

Final thoughts - If any of the above is you, it's never to late to shift the tide. Have a simple vision that is the umbrella of your church that all other things fall under. If it's not under the vision umbrella - it's gone.
Don't exhaust yourself, your family, your staff, your friends, and mostly your relationship with the Lord all for the sake of busy, and lack of vision.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Friendship Perspective.

I thought this post would take me a few days to write, however as I wrote it, I saw my passion come to life on my keyboard.

This is a very guarded area by many. A touchy don't go there. I am going to go there, even at the risk of offending someone. Why you ask ? Well I get weekly emails from women in minis
try who are lonely and don't feel like they have a friend in the world.

Did you know you can have thousands of people around you and be so alone ? Yes it's possible, and I know this for a fact.

After an email I got tonight, I sat and cried to myself.
Women in ministry are so alone. Big Church, Little Church, it doesn't matter.

I once read that there are people who want to be your friend because you are in leadership and it looks cool. There will be people who DON'T want to be your friend because your in leadership. There are people who will want to be your friend because they don't care about either!

I am sooo blessed to have that best friend! Can I tell you he is my husband.
If your married and your in ministry he is going to be your safest friend.

Now if your like me you want a girlfriend, someone to shop with, get your nails done with go on play dates with. My "other" best friend is In Michigan. She is 1000 miles away. She was someone I prayed for. A gift from God. She reminds me that my Best friend is my husband and doesn't ever try to replace that.

I remember the lonely times before I meet Cheryl and my marriage was not great.
In those moments I wish I had a girlfriend.
Women in ministry can I share with you a secret....
There are soooo many resources out there for you to have a friend.
I have a Girlfriends Blog Roll so you can find like minded women who understand your position. Leading and Loving It is fabulous, plus an awesome church planters website coming soon.

It's going to be up to you to decide if it's safe to have a friend in your church. All churches are different, all people and areas of the country are different. Use the Lord to guide you and pray.

I think it's possible to be a friend to everyone and everyone to be a friend back, but not everyone was made for your living room couch and your intimate thoughts.

So today ladies I encourage you to look around and be a friend. I am here for you and am praying that God would give you the perfect person, even if it's an internet friend 1000 miles away or on the other side of the ocean.

I also encourage you to remember to make your hubby your #1 BFF. He after all was a gift to you.

If you are apart of the body of Christ and have a ministry head a pastor and wife, remember they are genuinely trying to love everyone and while you may not be best friends, it takes an effort on both sides to be friends. They cherish friendships that are genuine, because they are hard to find!


Friday, February 4, 2011

Hi Friends.

Everyone in awhile I like to remind everyone that I have a blog roll for women in ministry.


The purpose of this is to create a community of women who share things in common. We are all married to a man in ministry. It can be a lonely world but can also be oh so rewarding!

I would also like to add in your businesses if you have one. One thing I have learned is we need to support each other in all areas. So if you have an online store let me know and I will add you to the blog roll as well!!!

So in the comments below please leave your blog address or shop address. Your name :) and the position you or your hubby hold in ministry.

Then you can go to the sidebar over there <------------------ and there is a bunch of symbols and numbers. Take that add it to your blog and other women will see a place to gather. Yeah!!!

Oh and also who would be interested in a private Girlfriends With A Purpose facebook room ?

For the love please leave a comment, and let me know you are out there!!!

Monday, January 31, 2011

One Day-One Lunch Project

Last year I had the privilege of meeting Amy and her sweet family at the Royal Celebration of Princess Chrissie. I briefly got to talk to her daughter Addisyn and how she felt about adopting and really in those few moments of talking to her she has an amazing heart!!!

With that being said please take a moment and read what Addisyn has been doing for the last 100 days.

Often times we are guilty of doing nothing because we can’t do it all. Often times we excuse ourselves from doing God’s work because we don’t believe we can make a difference with the little we have to offer.

On February 3rd marks 100 days of my 15 year old daughter, Addisyn, eating a small bowl of soup and piece of bread for lunch, like the children at the feeding program receive. Addisyn decided to do this so that she can donate her lunch money to Lifesong for Orphans for the children at the Adami Tulu preschool. You can read about what God taught Addisyn through our trips to Ethiopia on Amy's blog.


What to some may seem a small gift, God see’s the heart behind her efforts. He sees a child who is willing to give up the little she has for others who have nothing at all. He sees a child who did something for them- and in essence-did something for Him- with what she’d been given. Through a simple bowl of vegetable soup God has taught Addisyn so many lessons- in sacrifice and in integrity. He also blessed her efforts through a friend who decided to join in- doubling the gift.

As I was praying the other morning and thanking God for working in Addisyn's life- God brought to mind the little boy with five loaves of bread and two fish…. and how He took that child’s gift of giving what he could and multiplied it.

If you are reading this today- yes
YOU… I’d like to ask you to be a part of something big. God usually preferred to work through His people. People just like you and me-and my 15 year old daughter. You have two choices right now. You can click off this page and pretend you didn’t read this and go on with your everyday life- or you can choose to see that God brought YOU here- to read this- for a purpose- to be a part of something big.

Do not worry, I am not going to ask you to do something you can’t- I am asking you to do something you can. The Average American spends between $2.00 and $8.00 a day on lunch. If everyone who reads this blog post would simple choose- on February 3rd to give up their ‘lunch money’ and then donate what they would have spent on lunch that day to Lifesong for the Adami Tulu preschool - can you image what Jesus could do? A mere $3.00 feeds a child for ONE MONTH. Can you imagine the impact we could make- simply by being willing to make a small sacrifice for someone else?
But more than that… can you imagine how it would affect those around us as we say ‘enough’. Enough of over abundance. Enough of the waste. Enough of going on with our lives like we are the only ones that matter. Enough of turning our back to the needs of others in this world. Enough of pretending we don’t know what to do. If a 15 year old can think of something to give, then so can you and I. No more excuses- all it takes is one day and one lunch.

So mark your calendar for Feb. 3rd and spread the word about the One Day- One Lunch Project. Put it on Facebook, add it to your blog- ask your friends, coworkers and church family to join in. Let’s make a small sacrifice- to make one big difference.

"Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love."
~ Mother Teresa

Online donations: http://www.lifesongfororphans.org/donation.html
**indicate for the Adami Tulu Preschool.

Mail checks to:
Lifesong for Orphans
PO Box 40
Gridley, IL 61744
For the Adami Tulu Preschool


Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Black Friday?

So tell me are you all about it or can't stand it and want to stay inside all day and hide from it ?
I LOVE IT!!!
I love the sights, the sounds, the smells.
I go with no agenda (other than a peppermint mocha from bux) and have fun people watching and just taking it all in. If I find a great deal then I'm happy but if not it doesn't really matter.

So do you venture out ?
What are your top stores ?

This year I will be working on black Friday and I'm really excited about that! I really I'm. I love helping people find the perfect gift at a great deal!!!

Oh and what time will you brace the madness ???? 4am or earlier ?
This year I think I'm going to go to Tanger Outlets at Midnight!

Tell me all about your Black Friday...

Friday, November 12, 2010

Shocked. Sad. Not Surprised.

So last week I posted this poll and out of the 87 plus of you that follow my blog and the 1000 or so that hit it weekly only 20 of you took the poll.

My heart was so sad to see the results.

The question was: "What is the biggest area that is hurting your marriage ?"

This was geared more towards ministry women but really goes for anyone.

40 % said Lack of $
30 % said Disconnected
25% said Ministry taking up to much time
5% of you said Young Children.

Which one am I shocked over you ask ? That only 5% of you say young children and 30% said disconnected...

I would like to hear your take on this. Click anonymous or send me an email girlfriendwithapurpose@gmail.com

I have a couple post that will be coming up to hopefully hit on these topics! Love you girls and please know that your not alone!!

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

In Every Season

Some of you are walking thru the Desert and need to be encouraged. No matter what my God is a God that will provide, give you peace and hold you up!
No weapon formed against you will prosper!
What can I pray with you about girlfriendwithapurpose@gmail.com or leave me a comment.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Dessert & Games

I love having a community with other girls.
When your first building a church i can't tell you how valuable friendships and relationships are.
I love the fact that we can cut loose, let our hair down and have fun.

We had a girls dessert & game night Saturday at the church.
Every girl brought a dessert to share.
We decorated with fall decor.
We played some fun team games and Apples to Apples.
I think my favorite team game was telephone charades... you must try it.

I did a 10 minute devotion on your influence and spreading it on other people.

We gave away some prizes for best dessert and everyone got to take home a mini smores pack.

Here are some pictures to go with the night...

This is Nancy & Brianna, God brought them down here from Michigan! We are so thankful for their servants heart and willingness to serve where needed.
The Cafe' area.
All the girls/women got the pack of "Here's S'more Loving"
Some of the prizes included Gift Certificate for a pedicure.
An adorable watch from Jack & Darcy was one of the favorite prizes.

This is Nicole, she just loves kids!
Natasha & Rhonda what sweet ladies.

Emily & Anna what sweet sisters.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Leading & Loving It



Okay chics 2 day's in a row! What a miracle!
I wanted to introduce you to a great website.
It's led by a great group of Ministry Wives from around the country, and they are hosting 2 events in the future

A FREE virtual conference!!

AND...



So hoping that i can make this but it's our anniversary and usually I'm in Michigan at the Women's conf. during this weekend... we will see!!
Go to Leading and Loving It and check out the daily blogs and on top of that these great events!! Oh and tell the girls Rachael from Girlfriends With A Purpose sent you!!

Friday, June 18, 2010

Blog Roll...

Hey Girls just wanted you to know I've added a few more blogs to the blog roll... don't forget to copy the code and have it on your blog so others can connect with girlfriends in ministry!!!

<--------------------- You will find the code and box over to the right.

If your new and just visiting and your in ministry or your hubby is let me know if the comments and I'll add you to my blog roll.
Ministry is not limited to... Full Time/Part Time/Volunteer

Ministry can be adopting, youth, family pastors, working at a crisis pregnancy center and the list is endless etc...


So when you click on that button to the right <------------- it will take you to a great blog roll of ladies :)

Friday, February 26, 2010

See Look!!

So this non-techy girl has figured out how to make a button with a little code below it so that you can put it on your blog!
So if you would like you can take one of these super uber high tech buttons and put it on your blog :)
The more girlfriends the better the party!
Whoo hoo!
If your not on the blog roll you can click on the button and leave a comment or email me at girlfriendwithapurpose@gmail.com !
I love visiting new girls! So grab the code <-------------- over there and share the word!





Girlfriends Blogroll

I want to encourage you to go and "meet" some of these girlfriends...
girlfriends in Ministry that is...
read their blogs
pray for them
stalk them...okay totally kidding!

Let's do life together!
If your not on this list and would like to be added leave me a comment and i'll get you on :)


Shara Campbell~ Student Pastor
~ Jessica Dietzel ~ Lead Pastor,Church Planter, Family Evangilist
Welcome To Pattyville ~ Senior Pastor
Three Meals and A Baby ~ Senior Pastor
Pam Booher ~Personal Blog ~ Senior Pastor
Pam Booher Photo Blog :)
Empty Handed ~ Everything under the sun!
The 29:11 Promise ~ Senior Pastor
Bishops WIfe ~ Youth Pastor
The Preacher's Wife ~ Senior Pastor
A Steady Rain ~ Associate Pastor
Carrie Love Loren ~ Church Planters
My Freshly Brewed Life ~ Pastoral Administrator
Worthy Of The Prize - Worship Pastor
Living Above Ministries - Church Planters, Women's Minstry
Praise Through The Storm ~ Student Ministry
Steph T Mom Of 3 ~ Associate Pastors WIfe
Legacy of Love ~ Pastors Wife
Dunlizzie's Corner - Missionary/Church Planter/Worship Leader
Authenticity - Amanda Church Planting
Leading and Loving It Lori Wilhite, Brandi Wilson, Tiffany Cooper (Senior Pastors Wives)
Life In The Parsonage Senior Pastors Wife
Relates To Me Relate Church Staff Chicks
Sharpen Her Senior Pastors Wife (Church Planting)
Melissa Elswick Senior Pastor's Wife (Church Planting)
Musings From A Minister's Wife Senior Pastors Wife (Church Planting)
DePirro Notes - Worship Pastors Wife
Priceless Women Of Faith Church Planting
That-Good-Part - Pastors Wife

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Where my girls at & a giveaway :)

If you are in the ministry or married to someone in the ministry or you have a parent in the ministry or you used to be in the ministry... you get the picture will you please post a comment saying who you are and your blog :)
I'm making A Girlfriends With A Purpose Blog Roll and would like to include you in it!

I love blogging and reading about what is going on in your life and praying for your needs.
So will you pass the word on that i'm looking for some girls for the blog roll ?

I know there are lot's of list out there so why make another one right ? Well simple answer is there is no way we have all met....

So in your comment...
Your Blog address
Your Name
Your position/or hubby's position

Oh and did i mention i was going to give something away ????
I'm going to give away to the first random # i draw a copy of

Let me just tell you if you have not read it go read it. Go to Lifeway, Amazon or the Christian Bookstores and pick one up to read and then pick up one for your pastors wife! Really it's that good!


Then i will draw another random # and they will win this book....

This book is actually wrote by my best friend! I love this girl with all my heart and this book will really bless your socks off. If your a mother you need to read this book! If you have a child with special need YOU MUST GET THIS BOOK. You can purchase it here...My Saving Grace. However you can try and win one first....

Let's get rolling on a blog roll... can't wait to visit you all.
 
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